Love and money

[00:00.36] Do you usually go dutch when you take someone out to dinner? 当你带人出去吃饭时，你通常会去荷兰吗？

[00:04.12] Do you expect your date to pay for the whole meal?你希望你的约会对象支付整顿饭的费用吗？

[00:08.63] Many people say that as long as there's love, money doesn't matter much. 很多人说，只要有爱，钱就无所谓了。

[00:12.39] But this might change when the relationship gets serious and it can involve mortgages, joint current accounts and debt.但当关系变得严肃时，这种情况可能会改变，它可能涉及抵押贷款、联合经常账户和债务。

[00:19.65] A survey in the UK suggested that 44% of married couples don't know exactly what their spouse earns. 英国的一项调查表明，44% 的已婚夫妇不知道他们的配偶的确切收入。

[00:28.17] The research, conducted by a UK credit report service also found that an astonishing 1.9 million married couples actively try to keep their finances secret from their partners.这项由英国信用报告服务机构进行的研究还发现，惊人的 190 万对已婚夫妇积极尝试对伴侣保密他们的财务状况。

[00:41.45] British relationship therapist Arabella Russell says: "It’s very difficult to talk about money. 英国关系治疗师阿拉贝拉·拉塞尔说：“谈论金钱非常困难。

[00:47.21] Often there’s guilt, there’s shame. To start those conversations is complicated. 常常有愧疚，也有羞耻。开始这些对话很复杂。

[00:53.48] Money can be about how we value ourselves, how we feel valued. It’s not just a simple case of talking about hard cash."金钱可以是关于我们如何评价自己，如何感觉自己被重视。这不仅仅是谈论现金的简单案例。”

[01:03.25] So if you are in a couple, it might be a good idea to check if you both are on the same page about money before bills pile up on the kitchen table and love flies out of the window. 因此，如果您是一对夫妇，那么在账单堆积在厨房桌子上并且爱情飞出窗外之前，检查一下你们是否在同一页上谈论金钱可能是个好主意。

[01:15.53] When moving in together, couples should not only talk about their personal habits but also about their financial ones.同居时，夫妻不仅应该谈论他们的个人习惯，还应该谈论他们的财务习惯。

[01:23.30] Arabella Russell has a word of advice: "Accept the fact that in your relationship you might do money differently – there might be a spender there might be a saver. 阿拉贝拉·拉塞尔有一句忠告：“接受这样一个事实，在你们的关系中，你可能会以不同的方式赚钱——可能会有花钱的人，也可能会有储蓄者。

[01:33.82] It’s very tempting if your partner does things differently to say they’re wrong. Do it differently but have a budget."如果您的伴侣以不同的方式说他们错了，那是非常诱人的。以不同的方式做事，但要有预算。”

[01:42.09] And now, back to that date… Would you be put off by someone who was attractive but expected you to pay the bill by yourself?现在，回到那个日期......你会被一个有吸引力但希望你自己付账的人推迟吗？

[01:50.85] There's food for thought…有思想的食物……