Love versus romance
[00:00.67] Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you get excited by the idea of falling in love with the man or woman of your dreams? 你是一个无可救药的浪漫主义者吗？你是否对爱上你梦想中的男人或女人的想法感到兴奋？
[00:08.11] Does watching a romcom or a period drama on TV make you cry?在电视上看浪漫喜剧或时代剧会让你哭吗？
[00:14.22] Or are you someone who thinks romance is based on an idealised view of reality that doesn't really exist? Well, you could be right!或者你认为浪漫是基于对现实的理想化观点，但实际上并不存在，好吧？
[00:24.58] I'm no romantic and more of a realist – taking a more practical approach to love - maybe that's why I never had many girlfriends!我不浪漫，更像一个现实主义者——对爱情采取更实际的方法——也许这就是为什么我从来没有很多女朋友！
[00:33.34] But if you really are expecting the kind of love that makes your heart flutter with happiness you may be dissapointed.但如果你真的期待那种让你的心为幸福而颤抖的爱，你可能会失望。
[00:41.84] Our expectation of what romance is, probably originated from the Romantic period - an artistic, literary, musical and intellectual movement that originated in Europe in the 18th Century.我们对浪漫是什么的期待，大概起源于浪漫主义时期——一种起源于18世纪欧洲的艺术、文学、音乐和知识运动。
[00:55.12] The notion of falling in love, getting married and living happily ever after were culturally held ideas formed during this period and still exist today. 相爱、结婚、幸福生活的观念是这一时期形成的文化观念，今天仍然存在。
[01:05.75] Of course there's nothing wrong with liking the idea of romance; it makes us feel good – but we must be careful not to use it as a benchmark for our own relationships. 当然，喜欢浪漫的想法并没有错；它让我们感觉良好——但我们必须小心不要将它作为我们自己关系的基准。
[01:16.37] This idealised version of love leaves out the nitty-gritty of real-life relationships. 这种理想化的爱情版本忽略了现实生活中关系的本质。
[01:22.48] There's usually work, finances and other stresses of everyday life to deal with.通常有工作、财务和日常生活中的其他压力需要处理。
[01:27.26] You can't expect romantic gestures like a bunch of red roses every day – there are bills to pay!你不能指望每天像一束红玫瑰这样浪漫的姿态——有账单要付！
[01:34.43] Many popular love stories end at the point where the characters get together or tie the knot. 许多流行的爱情故事都在角色聚在一起或喜结连理时结束。
[01:40.28] That puts the focus on finding someone special. But very few show us how to keep that perfect catch over a long period of time.这将重点放在寻找特别的人上。但很少有人向我们展示如何在很长一段时间内保持完美的捕获。
[01:50.11] A relationship is hard work. It’s frustrating, messy and can be emotionally damaging.一段关系是艰苦的工作。这令人沮丧、混乱，并可能在情感上造成伤害。
[01:57.81] If you're still convinced romance isn't dead, how will you ever find it? 如果你仍然相信浪漫没有死，你怎么会找到它？
[02:02.86] Historian and TV presenter Lucy Worsley thinks nowadays, any idea of romance is dying because it has become "too easy" to meet new people via dating apps. 历史学家和电视节目主持人露西·沃斯利（Lucy Worsley）认为，如今，任何关于浪漫的想法都在消亡，因为通过约会应用结识新朋友变得“太容易”了。
[02:14.01] She told the BBC the "slow exquisite torture of love in Jane Austen novels no longer existed in the age of Grindr and Tinder [apps]."她告诉 BBC，“在 Grindr 和 Tinder [应用程序] 的时代，简奥斯汀小说中对爱情的缓慢而精致的折磨已不复存在。”
[02:24.11] Perhaps romance is best left to the movies – a fantasy that makes us feel good – and instead concentrate on finding a good and healthy relationship with its ups and downs but one that is full of love. Do you believe romance really exists?也许浪漫最好留给电影——一种让我们感觉良好的幻想——而是专注于寻找一种良好而健康的关系，它有起有落，但充满了爱。你相信浪漫真的存在吗？
